Happiness- An Inside Job

November 10th, 2015

behappyHave you ever noticed people commenting-  “I’ll be happy when…  (insert reason here) ”  It could be to lose that last 15 pounds, land that perfect job, find Mr. or Miss Right,  purchase a home, have children…  You get the idea, right?

There was a time when I was kind of that way as well.  I would find myself saying that if this or that happened that I’d be so happy, or that the right people in my life would make me happy.

Over time- as I learned and grew as a human being (as we are all here to do) I realized something big-   my happiness was no ones responsibility but my own. 

It is 100% without a doubt a do-it-yourself from the inside out job!     Feeling unhappy?  Look inside-  There’s something that is holding you back- but that something isn’t lack or waiting for something big to show up-  it’s something within that needs to be worked through and out.

When we put our happiness in the power of someone else- or attaching it to ‘things’ or ‘circumstances’ – we are giving our own power away-   our own ability to create our own happiness, and that is the only real joy to ‘do it ourselves’.

People can enhance our lives-  they can increase our joy- they can half our sorrows- they can really enhance what is already there- but they are not responsible for our happiness, we are.    The same goes for that new house, job, life partner.   It can all add to our joy, to our gratitude-  but our shining light- our happiness.  It’s ours to own and make happen.

So as the holiday season knocks at our door-   choose happy-  BE Happy!



When the Fog Clears

November 2nd, 2015

Have you ever had those days when it seems like you are in a fog? Everything seems a little fuzzy and you find yourself unable to completely focus on anything?

Yesterday we had that in the literal since. Our entire area was covered in dense fog, and what normally would lift after a few hours of daylight, never occurred. Everything was darker and a little eerie. I went out for a few moments last night and even the night seemed more still- almost like something out of a horror movie.

There is something interesting about the fog though- it reveals things we don’t generally notice, such as just how many spider webs are lurking about, and the different, almost somber look the trees have when surrounded by the grey mist.

Today, the fog has cleared and we are left with a gorgeous Fall day. But as I look at the trees and the shrubbery, the somber replaced with sunshine, the spider webs hidden amongst the green shrubbery- I know that even though I don’t see it- doesn’t mean it isn’t there.

This same thing can be said about so many things in life. Not physically seeing or noticing something doesn’t mean it isn’t there in front of us, waiting to be discovered.

Have you noticed that we are constantly ‘plugged in’ and that by doing so, we create a fog with an overload of information? It’s something that’s easily ‘fixable’, but yet the pull for constant information keeps us from making that simple shift.

It’s something I’m working on, finding the perfect balance for me (which may be something totally different for someone else) that will keep me appreciating the perspective that the fog brings, but enjoying the sunshine a lot more.

Life Is Good

October 27th, 2015

vaniniI know that my posts have been few and far between, but we have been traveling here, there and everywhere.

The best part of it all is that I’ve been able to spend it with three of the people I love most in life:  Marcel and my parents.      I’ve also started a love affair with Italy and can’t wait to share more about our adventures there.

Right now, we are enjoying the last couple of days before my parents leave and head home.   I will miss them so much, but I’m more than grateful for the time we’ve been able to spend with them making memories.

The plus is that once we say goodbye, we will be able to start counting down for our next visit- which will be for an amazing wedding next year for one of my favorite couples in the world.

The photo to the right is the result of ‘some’ of the homemade artisan bread mom & I made at a bread workshop with a group of 8 friends.     The olive oil- Vanini Osvaldo, I brought back from Lenno, Italy and I am in LOVE.   If you have the opportunity to purchase some, by all means DO SO!

I have lots of ideas and such bubbling, but right now-   I am going to enjoy the last couple of days with my parents.

Life is indeed- GOOD!  GREAT!

Tis the Season

October 27th, 2015

With less than two months to go before Christmas, I’ll be the first one to admit- that I’ve spent a little of our traveling down time browsing online for Christmas gifts, plus paying a little extra attention to the things people say in regards to ‘wants’- and I’m taking notes!

One of my close friends is a huge Broncos fan (I know, bless his heart- we can’t all be Saint’s fans, I suppose), so when I found the Joy Jewelers broncos jewelry selection I was thrilled! There are several options that I know he will love, and once I have a little extra time to sit and peruse the site- I’ll make a decision from their selection, plus see what other goodies they have to offer.

Let the holiday season begin!

It’s a Beautiful Day

September 30th, 2015

It’s another gorgeous morning and today we are saying goodbye to this hotel in the south and heading to another even further south.

Marcel is still snoring softly so I’ll wake him in a moment. He was feeling a little sniffly yesterday, so hopefully the rest will have him feeling more refreshed this morning.

The time awake gives me a chance to think about my blessings and also about things I want to change. I’ve realized that it’s time for me to make some changes in my life, but that’s exciting to me as it’s all part of the learning process of life.

Life is good.

Coloring for Grown-Ups

September 14th, 2015

coloringYesterday-  when I ‘should’ have been working on checking things off my ‘to do’ list-  I decided to take a little break and do some coloring.

Adult coloring books are all the rage right now, and are cited for how they can bring total relaxation and can be really good for stress.    Even though I wasn’t feeling stressed, I was definitely having the urge to tune in to the colors and unplug from everything else.

I love that these coloring books happen to be coloring cards-  so that when I’m done coloring it-  I can write a note on the back-  add an address and send to someone in hopes of brightening their day.

Have you tried coloring, and if so, does it relax you?

Perfect Days

September 13th, 2015

perfect Earlier this week (Tuesday) I woke up bright and early to visit a friend I haven’t seen in a few weeks.    The sun was shining bright, and the air had the crispness to it that only happens when Fall is on the way.

I walked outside, greeted with the aforementioned- and out loud I said-  “I wish every day was like this.”    Aside from the fact that I was spending the day with a close friend (which makes all days good days), I could feel that everything about the day was going to be amazing.

I was right-    Since I took the train for my journey, it also meant a small layover while I switched connections.   I had two choices-   take a quick potty break, or duck into Starbucks and see if they had the Pumpkin Spice Latte on the menu.     To know me is to know that I chose the latter.   It wasn’t really a contest.

To match my ‘great day’ feeling-   they didn’t have the PSL on the menu, but when I asked- she said that indeed, they did have them.  YAY-  plus to top it off, it was free, which somehow made it all the sweeter.

I spent an energized afternoon with my dear friend- laughing, eating some amazing salad that she whipped up for us both-  soaking up some of natures vitamin D in the form of sunshine, and bouncing ideas off each other for a new project we’re embarking on soon.    It couldn’t have been any better!

When I arrived home-  Marcel met me at the station and we’d decided to go run a few errands and get those out of the way so we didn’t have to do them later.   We grabbed a quick bite out-  did our shopping and then took the ‘long road home’ through some of my favorite countryside in our immediate area.  That’s what you see in the photo.

From beginning to end-   it was beautiful, perfect, and a fully energizing day.    To know that every day isn’t this perfect, made me appreciate it all the more.

Rocking on the River

September 13th, 2015

One of my friends from back home has a band- You may have seen me mention him before as they play at weddings and various local gigs around town. They play some great tunes, and they’ve been known to have impromptu get togethers with friends, which include them having a jam session on their back porch.

Earlier this summer they started building a dock and boat house at the back of their property. I’ve loved seeing it all come together, bit by bit- and last night I saw that they had yet another one of their concerts, only this time on the dock. They had his custom made guitar, the drums, musicians friend keyboards, and everything else in between to rock the neighborhood. It looked like they all had a great time, and I admit that I wish I’d been there to hear it.

Ten Years Later- Remembering Hurricane Katrina

August 30th, 2015

Yesterday was the ten year anniversary of Hurricane Katrina-

Rather than writing a wordy post on my thoughts-   (there are always many), I’ll share with you, instead, what I posted on my public Facebook page yesterday.  It sums up so much.

As I sit in reflection of the ten year anniversary of Katrina, I have many thoughts. I remember the destruction, loss, fear, helpless-feelings and uncertainty as the Gulf Coast as we knew it was changed for good.

The one thing I am reminded of time and time again when I hear stories of each persons experience, is the resilience, hope, and determination.

No one cared what your day job was, what your political or religious views were, the color of your skin or your country of birth. It did not matter.

People came together to help each other, to do what they could for their neighbor and fellow man. The bonded together to rebuild lives, communities, homes- committed to rebuilding a better Gulf Coast.

They succeeded and continue to do so.

I can’t help but think that if we, as people, would get out of our own heads and egos, forget all the ‘stuff’ that tears us apart, and come together as a whole- commit ourselves to the process, that bigger and better things would happen beyond the realms of comprehension.



The Gift of Words

August 24th, 2015

Something I admittedly don’t give a lot of thought to is how other people see me.    I am a work-in-progress (as we all are), but I know that I am a good person, I live life with good intentions and never seek to hurt someone.  I’m far from perfect, but I live a very blessed and grateful life.     If I don’t feel something is working for me, then I also am aware that the power is within me to change it, and not someone else.

Occasionally, someone will send me a random note out of the blue and they will give me the gift of telling me how they see me from their eyes.      Most of the time it’s something positive-   but if I am ‘getting off track’ to what is true to how I try to live, plus my character, there have been a few who have let me know that as well.      I’m grateful for that, because at times we get caught up in things and don’t always ‘see’ those little things that eventually add up to ‘big things’.

Last week, I received a note from a long-time friend.   It is someone who I feel knows me very well, and also someone who I value greatly as a friend.   We don’t have the opportunity to talk often, but we both know that our friendship is something we both care about.

I never ‘think’ about some things-   they just ‘are’.      In the message to me-   without going into all the details- she shared that one of the things that draws people to me is my sensitivity and authenticity.

It wasn’t an anticipated message, and quite honestly when someone writes something about me, I always pause to think about it.    I think about if their words resonate with me-   if it is something I feel is truth for me- a truth for them, or both of us.

In this case-   it’s clear she knows me well.   To know me is to know that I am highly sensitive.   I can feel things are ‘off’ even when I’m being told otherwise.     I could write an entire post about this subject alone, but today I’ll spare you.

Instead-   I’ll move to authentic.     It’s not something I think about-    It’s something that I ‘am’.      It’s interesting though, authenticity-  because people don’t always meet authentic with arms wide open-  especially if it doesn’t jive with their thoughts and ideas.    I am ok with that.    That isn’t about me-

I have never had a need to go along with something ‘just because’ it was what other people were doing-     I don’t need to be approved by other people- because I approve of myself.   Being ‘me’ is enough for me-    and ‘keeping it real’ is part of that.      I know it isn’t always the ‘popular’ thing, but I don’t mind about that either.    I do what works for me.

Her words were a gift to me-     as are all words spoken to me, from another persons perspective of who I am.    It gives me the chance to pause-   ‘check myself’ and keep it real with myself-    and make adjustments as necessary.  All part of the learning and ‘work in progress’ part of life.     I am so grateful for that opportunity-   we all should be.

So it makes me wonder-    when someone tells you something about ‘you’ through their eyes-  be it something complimentary or not, How do YOU respond?   Do you take it as an opportunity to pause, learn and grow-  or do you immediately dismiss it?

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