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10 Year Text- Trust30 (Day 30)

June 29th, 2011

10 Year Text-

Imagine your future self, ie, you 10 years from now. If he/she were to send you a tweet or text message, 1) what would it say and 2) how would that transform your life or change something you’re doing, thinking, believing or saying today?

It’s as simple as creating the vision- believing you can and that you deserve it-  doing the work- and making it happen.  

I think it would transform the way I think and feel today because I struggle at times thinking that I can actually achieve the things I want- even though I know that I can if I put my money where my mouth is- so to speak.    

Speak what you think now in hard words, and tomorrow speak what tomorrow thinks in hard words again, though it contradict every thing you said today. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Overcoming Uncertainty- Trust30 (Day 29)

June 28th, 2011

Overcoming Uncertainty-

Write down a major life goal you have yet to achieve or even begin to take action on. For each goal, write down three uncertainties (read: fears) you have relating to each goal. Break it down further, and write down three reasons for each uncertainty. When you have three reasons for your fear, you’ll be able to start processing the change because you know where the fear stems from. Now you’ll be able to make a smaller changes that push you towards your larger goal. So begins the process of “trusting yourself.”

My big uncompleted goal at the moment is reaching my weight loss goal.  It isn’t so much ‘only’ that goal but also the goal to be the best, healthiest version of myself that I can be.      I’m making better choices and still, if I don’t stay in the moment, it’s so easy to veer off the path.   My choices change and I do things that definitely don’t serve the end goal (such as make the wrong food choices and not exercise).  Little by little the change is happening, and that is something I celebrate.  I will get there.

The other thing is the crossroads I’m at-   I have been gathering information and do have meetings this week with people who can help give me all the answers I need.  From there- I can make an informed decision- but right now it looks like things are looking up.    Every small step is a step in the right direction.

Nothing can bring you peace but yourself. Nothing can bring you peace but the triumph of principles. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Alive-est- Trust30 (Day 28)

June 28th, 2011

Alive-est-

When did you feel most alive recently? Where were you? What did you smell? What sights and sounds did you experience? Capture that moment on paper and recall that feeling. Then, when it’s time to create something, read your own words to reclaim a sense of being to motivate you to complete a task at hand.

Probably the most alive I felt recently is when I started working out again.   I got back on the elliptical after not being on it for a long time and I ran and ran.  I loved it.  I was sweaty and hot, but I was in the zone and it felt good.   I felt as though I could do anything in the world.   It was an amazing feeling.  I need to learn to channel into that feeling on days when I’m feeling less than my best.

Nothing is at last sacred but the integrity of your own mind. If we follow the truth, it will bring us out safe at last. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Personal Recipe- Trust30 (Day 27)

June 26th, 2011

Personal Recipe-

Think about the type of person you’d NEVER want to be 5 years from now. Write out your own personal recipe to prevent this from happening and commit to following it. “Thought is the seed of action.”

The person I don’t want to be 5 years from now or EVER- is one who lives life too scared to take chances, or who has become bitter or a victim due to pain or obstacles that I encounter.   I want to never be jealous of those whom I love-  their successes and triumphs. I want to celebrate who they are and every moment of good that comes into their life.

To make sure I never become that person- I’ll continue to strive to be the best ME that I can be.  I will continue to realize that struggles, roadblocks and pains that happen in my life are just that and don’t define who I am, but what I’m going through at the moment.   I will not fall into the role of victim, no matter what I may face.    I can’t ever recall being jealous or insecure for the successes of those I love- because it genuinely makes me happy to see people do well. I plan to continue to feel that way and to continue to love and be the person that I am- while learning and growing along the way.

I do not wish to expiate, but to live. My life is for itself and not for a spectacle. I much prefer that it should be of a lower strain, so it be genuine and equal, than that it should be glittering and unsteady. I wish it to be sound and sweet, and not to need diet and bleeding. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Call to Arms- Trust30 (Day 26)

June 25th, 2011

Call to Arms-

What if today, right now, no jokes at all, you were actually in charge, the boss, the Head Honcho. Write the “call to arms” note you’re sending to everyone (staff, customers, suppliers, Board) charting the path ahead for the next 12 months and the next 5 years. Now take this manifesto, print it out somewhere you can see, preferably in big letters you can read from your chair.
You’re just written your own job description. You know what you have to do. Go!
(bonus: send it to the CEO with the title “The things we absolutely have to get right – nothing else matters.”)

There is so much that I would want to say- but mostly that the only way to assure failure is not to try- and as long as we are trying and doing the best that we can at what we do- success WILL happen.  

Set realistic goals with realistic time-frames.  Prioritize and realize that the world won’t stop if everything on your to-do list isn’t done-   and the following day- prioritize and begin again.   Never give up.  Ever.

The secret of fortune is joy in our hands. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Most Ordinary- Trust30 (Day 25)

June 25th, 2011

Most Ordinary-

We are our most potent at our most ordinary. And yet most of us discount our “ordinary” because it is, well, ordinary. Or so we believe. But my ordinary is not yours. Three things block us from putting down our clever and picking up our ordinary: false comparisons with others (I’m not as good a writer as _____), false expectations of ourselves (I should be on the NYTimes best seller list or not write at all), and false investments in a story (it’s all been written before, I shouldn’t bother). What are your false comparisons? What are your false expectations? What are your false investments in a story? List them. Each keep you from that internal knowing about which Emerson writes. Each keeps you from making your strong offer to the world. Put down your clever, and pick up your ordinary.

Another Wow moment for me- or as Oprah calls them “Ah-Ha” moments.    I have always discounted the ordinary in myself- and yet when I stop and think about it- it’s within the ordinary that the extraordinary lies.   Funny that I never thought about it- or realized it until this prompt and a little self-reflection. 

I’ve kept myself from taking many steps simply because of the negative internal dialogue that I sometimes have swirling around in that head of mine.      I’ve always found it very difficult to recognize my own talents because I see so many others who are more talented than I am.   I will see a photograph or even something written and be awestruck by the beauty- and find myself wishing that I could be ‘that good’ – only to hear from others that I am as good if not better in some cases.     I guess we can never see in ourselves what others see in us.

The bottom line is that we all have gifts- and while it will be different than another- or maybe not even as grand as someone else, it doesn’t mean we shouldn’t use those gifts or develop the ones we have and be the best that we can be and from there- who knows what can happen.  It all starts with a single step.   My step today is to stop comparing my talents with those of someone else and move on!

Good and bad are but names very readily transferable to that or this; the only right is what is after my constitution, the only wrong what is against it. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Intuition- Trust30 (Day 24)

June 23rd, 2011

Intuition-

If you could picture your intuition as a person, what would he or she look like? If you sat down together for dinner, what is the first thing he or she would tell you?

My intuitionwould look just like me-  maybe a little older, a little wiser but like me none-the-less.     If we sat down for dinner together- probably the first thing she’d tell me without a doubt is that I should remember and LIVE the quote that I claim as one of my favorites:  “When people show you who they are- believe them.”   It’s from Maya Angelou and she’s right.     

I tend to want to see the best in people and because of that-  I am one who gives chance after chance and have even found myself making excuses for their behavior at times.   I remember having arguments with Carol when I was younger, because there were times when she would tell me that a particular flavor of the week that I happened to be drooling over at the time wasn’t interested in me.   Of course it made me furious-  and I made countless stupid excuses for them and many others over the course of my life.   It made me furious because deep down- I knew she was right.       The reason I’ve done it again and again- is because I guess I wear rose colored glasses and I want to believe that people can be who they try portray themselves to be around others and now who they actually are- based on their actions.  

I’ve gotten better over the years- but I still fall prey.   I want to believe and I want to think that maybe it’s me who is seeing things differently than what it really is- but sometimes you just have to believe it when people show you time and time again who they are.   Good or bad.

That’s what my intuition would say to me-   and probably to take off the rose colored glasses of idealism so I can really ‘see’ and once I do-  to listen and move on accordingly.    It’s easier said than done- but I’m getting there.

The secret of fortune is joy in our hands. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Courage to Connect- Trust30 (Day 23)

June 22nd, 2011

Courage to Connect-

Who is one person that you’ve been dying to connect with, but just haven’t had the courage to reach out to? First, reflect on why you want to get in touch with them. Then, reach out and set up a meeting.

It definitely isn’t because I don’t have the courage- but yet more because I’m not sure how she would react- based on the fact that I was grouped in with several ‘family’ members that I know she would probably never wish to see again.  The person is my ex-sister-in-law Hillary.   I think of her often.   She moved away a little over a year after Marcel’s brother was killed in a car accident.  I don’t blame her-    I also think cutting ties was the best thing she could do for herself because otherwise she would have been driven mad.    

I liked her a lot and I really would love to reconnect with her.  Even before this Trust30 challenge for today- I’d already been thinking about writing a letter and sending it to one of her family members in hopes that they could or would pass it on.     I think I’ll try to do that this weekend.

Men imagine that they communicate their virtue or vice only by overt actions, and do not see that virtue or vice emit a breath every moment. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Enthusiasm- Trust30 (Day 22)

June 21st, 2011

Enthusiasm-

“Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm.” is a great line from Emerson. If there’s no enthusiasm in what you do, it won’t be remarkable and certainly won’t connect with people on an emotional basis. But, if you put that magic energy into all of your work, you can create something that touches people on a deeper level. How can you bring MORE enthusiasm into your work? What do you have to think or believe about your work to be totally excited about it? Answer it now.

Years ago I remember seeing an episode of Oprah where she talks about that if you make your life’s passion your work- no matter what it is- that you won’t really feel as though you’re working at all, but living what you’re called to do.    I don’t think there is a bigger example of that in the world than Miss Oprah herself.     In her last show- she mentioned that we are all called to do something and to be good at somthing- and it’s up to us to find that platform and let our lights shine-   Those weren’t here exact words, but close.  

I am a passionate person-  When I love something- no matter what it is, I’m very passionate about it.    I am passionate about my writing work, and I’m passionate about the people I surround myself with, along with photography, cooking and many other things.    The crossroads I’ve mentioned several times- also is in regards to a passion that I have- and I’m exploring my options.    The thought is completely exciting and I know the possibilities endless and I’m working on making that passion into a part of my every day life.   I just have to trust- and be patient and the rest will unfold as it should.

Trust thyself: every heart vibrates to that iron string. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

You Know- Trust30 (Day 21)

June 21st, 2011

You Know-

We live in a society of advice columns, experts and make-over shows. Without even knowing it, you can begin to believe someone knows better than you how to live your life. Someone might know a particular something better – like how to bake a three-layer molten coconut chocolate cake or how to build a website – but nobody else on the planet knows how to live your life better than you. (Although one or two people may think they do.) For today, trying asking yourself often, especially before you make a choice, “What do I know about this?”

It was no accident that I received this yesterday.   It was an odd day of sorts and one where I found that I was faced with dealing with others who seem to think that the only way I should live my life is the way they want me to.    While I do find it somewhat flattering that someone would think they could know what I need-   I also find that their ‘ideas’ seem to serve what works best for them and in spite of it being ‘my’ life- has ultimately nothing to do with me, but what makes them happy.   

I try to choose my battle wisely-  (and am not always successsful) but in this case-I choose not to do battle.  Instead- I’ve drawn a line in the sand and while I’m always open for suggestions on ways to better my life-   there are some who I know do not remotely have my best interest at heart and I just can’t entertain their ideas.   All I can say- is thank goodness for boundries and in spite of it not making me popular – they are not to be crossed.  After all- they are there for a reason.

Nothing is at last sacred but the integrity of your own mind. Absolve you to yourself, and you shall have the suffrage of the world. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

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