We are our most potent at our most ordinary. And yet most of us discount our “ordinary” because it is, well, ordinary. Or so we believe. But my ordinary is not yours. Three things block us from putting down our clever and picking up our ordinary: false comparisons with others (I’m not as good a writer as _____), false expectations of ourselves (I should be on the NYTimes best seller list or not write at all), and false investments in a story (it’s all been written before, I shouldn’t bother). What are your false comparisons? What are your false expectations? What are your false investments in a story? List them. Each keep you from that internal knowing about which Emerson writes. Each keeps you from making your strong offer to the world. Put down your clever, and pick up your ordinary.
Another Wow moment for me- or as Oprah calls them “Ah-Ha” moments. I have always discounted the ordinary in myself- and yet when I stop and think about it- it’s within the ordinary that the extraordinary lies. Funny that I never thought about it- or realized it until this prompt and a little self-reflection.
I’ve kept myself from taking many steps simply because of the negative internal dialogue that I sometimes have swirling around in that head of mine. I’ve always found it very difficult to recognize my own talents because I see so many others who are more talented than I am. I will see a photograph or even something written and be awestruck by the beauty- and find myself wishing that I could be ‘that good’ – only to hear from others that I am as good if not better in some cases. I guess we can never see in ourselves what others see in us.
The bottom line is that we all have gifts- and while it will be different than another- or maybe not even as grand as someone else, it doesn’t mean we shouldn’t use those gifts or develop the ones we have and be the best that we can be and from there- who knows what can happen. It all starts with a single step. My step today is to stop comparing my talents with those of someone else and move on!
Good and bad are but names very readily transferable to that or this; the only right is what is after my constitution, the only wrong what is against it. – Ralph Waldo Emerson